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theace asked:


hi all,my situation is too hard and complicated,when my wife was on her way to my country to start living together after a hard long distance relationship,she met on the plane with some guy ,the got in contact few days after her arrival trough emails.she was asking hem about his feelings after his arrival to the country after his annual leave ,and asking for a meet up “since we live in the same neighborhood”,any way there were also another email where he was suggesting an “all inclusive package with dinner” instead of just a coffee meet up.all this i did not know about until she told me to open up her outlook to make start collecting incoming emails,i had absolutely no intention to go trough her emails before she told to do that.any way i got as mad as can never imagine i told her she will not go on that “date”.or if she think is a innocent meeting as she told me then she should tell him that she would like her husband to come along with her.and that’s when i realized she didn’t tell him that she was married,WHY??she said because she didn’t want to look foolish following a man overseas!!,any way she went on her own knowing all the pain i went through ,and he also gave her a ride to another place she was going to.any way i was very angry and frustrated.but we talked and i made my self clear after she came back.an hour later i had a meeting with my guys friends which she knew about, but she completely exploded and went to the street tilling me :if i’m going out to meet my friends,she’ll also go out and find someone to play with!!,i got panic at this moment and dragged her from the street.and broke some stuff in the house”chair”,she said i’m aggressive and abusive,i admit that i got really mad and felt she hurts me big time.but i was never controlling.the email was clearly about a DATE,any dumb jerk could see that,and plus why it feels stupid if she came to be with her husband?? ,any way the coming months was really bad ,she completely ignored me or made terrible comments to make me feel bad ,became so secretive added a password to her laptop,no sexual contact.then she went to her country for a month ,she told only one week but she stayed for a month.when she came back she sent me out of the room .so i slept in the couch.she did not speak a single word to me.she went out for hours and some times the whole day ,without telling me where she was.i tried talking to her ,she didn’t want to talk.she just cooked her meals ,take her plate and went to her room and then slams the door on my face when i tried to talk she just kept telling me that there is nothing between us and she can not forgive the way i treated her and that she saw a monster that she can’t forget.any way i kept trying to do nice things but she just shut me off all the time,i once cooked for her and was trying to make some fun atmosphere i said :that whats people call “cooking”,i was really just proud of what i cooked and was just laughing about it,but she ignored the humor and said:I HAD BOY FRIENDS WHO COOKED FASTER AND BETTER any way
i tried all i could but she always made it hard.the last time she was on her laptop doing some of her work and i sneaked softly and kissed her in her neck ,she pushed me a way and told me that there is nothing between us.that’s when i told her that we need to fix whats broken between us,she said she don’t want to,
i told asked her if she want divorce she said that it doesn’t matter what she thinks.so i left my house,and she asked for my key, because she said she is afraid of what i’m capable of doing and the second day she left it and sent me an sms”the key is outside (our )house”
any way she is a way since then i tried few weeks a go to” talk” she told me she don’t want to ever hear of me again and that she is preparing for her leave,i panicked and went right away to where she was staying (an NGO guest house) the guards didn’t allow me in .i threatened them if i didn’t speak to my wife ill go to the police and put them in jail,she was so cold and didnt want to talk and blamed me for my out rages behavior with the guards i told her if you think my anger is too much ill go to therapy ,but you dont need to leave ,stay as long as you want where ever you want and then talk to me when you are ready,but don’t leave .she then sent me an sms wanting to meet as i told her i went ,she then said that its not that i’m a bad person but the problem is my family that lives near by,she said she cant stand them and i listen to them more than her.and then about she cant handle it any more and she don’t want us to continue and that she want a final divorce.i told her about the therapy im taking to reduce my anger ,”i took it for a month now”.but she said it doesm’t matter to her.2 weeks later she sent an sms that she left to another state for her research,and will be back in few weeks.i didnt reply.she then sent another sms telling me that her grand mother died.i called her she said she sent it by mistake and dont know why she
wow,
well thank you all.
i guess you all agreed on it.
maybe its the right thing
thank you