Mar 08
Evil step-mother problems?
Too Pretty To Work asked:
I am so tired of being mistreated by my step-mom! My bio mother was murdered when I was 4 and my step mom has been abusive and cruel since then…when I was little she would put me down, hit me and treat me as her maid…I was never allowed to join sports or extra-curricular activities…just come home and clean the house…I finally ran away and got married….I am 29 now and she still finds a way to make my life miserable…she made me loose a scholarship that I had when I first started college and had to drop out cause I couldn’t afford to go…I finally went back to school and still am in school and she would say she would help me with my kids but then bails last minute…I had to drop 2 classes last semester because of this…she told me she would help me watch my kids for 1hr 2 days a week so that I could get to a 5pm class and my husband got off work at 6…then the first week of school she calls and says she can’t cause she is going back to school…so since I had no notice…I had to drop the class and lost money on it…and she never went back to school…it was a lie…then she gets mad if my dad helps me with anything. I had finals and I asked my dad if he would watch the kids so that I could study and she called me bitching and yelling at me when I was at school studying and told me not to take them…then last week I went to buy my books cause school starts this Monday and my dad said he would go with me so that i didn’t have to take my kids in the cold…so he sat in the truck and she called and bitched him out….I felt bad…what she is doing is wrong…he is my dad and should help me when I need it…I am a good person, I go to school full time at night and I am with my 2 kids during the day..ages 4 and 2…I don’t drink or smoke or do drugs..I am not out partying and I rarely ask them for anything other than helping with the kids for school..I was married at 20 and have never asked them for 1 penny to help me with anything and I just think its the least she could do since she has been so horrible to me these past 25 years…so now I feel torn….I want to be done with her but my husband keeps telling me to **** it up cause I need to keep a relationship with my dad…especially for my kids sake….but if she mistreated me, now I wonder how she is with my kids when I am not around…and I really just want to be done with her…I am so tired of being stressed…after the whole book thing…I was soooooo stressed that I became weak….I sometimes think that all theses years of abuse and stress from her is going to kill me…I get so sick physically after her drama fests…I can’t take it anymore and I am only 29yrs old!
kdsmm,
What you say is so true…when I finally ran away I realized that so many people knew about it and no one did anything..I guess from fear or thought they should just mind their own business…I always thought it was some huge secret cause my dad never defended me…I don’t know what to think about that either..I guess because I didn’t turn out a ***** up from all the abuse everyone assumed that I was ok…but emotionally I am not..I am affected greatly by my mothers death, the abuse and my fathers neglect of defending me from his wife…I just channel it by trying to be the best mom ever..me and my kids are very close and we are best friends
I go to school and I am majoring in Psychology and Sociology and when I graduate I plan to work with troubled and abused kids and go back for my Master’s once my kids are in school…My husband and I were also foster parents before having our own kids…I’m thinking of fostering again but waiting for my kids to be a little bigger…
I am so tired of being mistreated by my step-mom! My bio mother was murdered when I was 4 and my step mom has been abusive and cruel since then…when I was little she would put me down, hit me and treat me as her maid…I was never allowed to join sports or extra-curricular activities…just come home and clean the house…I finally ran away and got married….I am 29 now and she still finds a way to make my life miserable…she made me loose a scholarship that I had when I first started college and had to drop out cause I couldn’t afford to go…I finally went back to school and still am in school and she would say she would help me with my kids but then bails last minute…I had to drop 2 classes last semester because of this…she told me she would help me watch my kids for 1hr 2 days a week so that I could get to a 5pm class and my husband got off work at 6…then the first week of school she calls and says she can’t cause she is going back to school…so since I had no notice…I had to drop the class and lost money on it…and she never went back to school…it was a lie…then she gets mad if my dad helps me with anything. I had finals and I asked my dad if he would watch the kids so that I could study and she called me bitching and yelling at me when I was at school studying and told me not to take them…then last week I went to buy my books cause school starts this Monday and my dad said he would go with me so that i didn’t have to take my kids in the cold…so he sat in the truck and she called and bitched him out….I felt bad…what she is doing is wrong…he is my dad and should help me when I need it…I am a good person, I go to school full time at night and I am with my 2 kids during the day..ages 4 and 2…I don’t drink or smoke or do drugs..I am not out partying and I rarely ask them for anything other than helping with the kids for school..I was married at 20 and have never asked them for 1 penny to help me with anything and I just think its the least she could do since she has been so horrible to me these past 25 years…so now I feel torn….I want to be done with her but my husband keeps telling me to **** it up cause I need to keep a relationship with my dad…especially for my kids sake….but if she mistreated me, now I wonder how she is with my kids when I am not around…and I really just want to be done with her…I am so tired of being stressed…after the whole book thing…I was soooooo stressed that I became weak….I sometimes think that all theses years of abuse and stress from her is going to kill me…I get so sick physically after her drama fests…I can’t take it anymore and I am only 29yrs old!
kdsmm,
What you say is so true…when I finally ran away I realized that so many people knew about it and no one did anything..I guess from fear or thought they should just mind their own business…I always thought it was some huge secret cause my dad never defended me…I don’t know what to think about that either..I guess because I didn’t turn out a ***** up from all the abuse everyone assumed that I was ok…but emotionally I am not..I am affected greatly by my mothers death, the abuse and my fathers neglect of defending me from his wife…I just channel it by trying to be the best mom ever..me and my kids are very close and we are best friends
I go to school and I am majoring in Psychology and Sociology and when I graduate I plan to work with troubled and abused kids and go back for my Master’s once my kids are in school…My husband and I were also foster parents before having our own kids…I’m thinking of fostering again but waiting for my kids to be a little bigger…
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9 Responses to “Evil step-mother problems?”
My advice, stop asking her for favours. She can’t let you down if she doesn’t have any responsibility over your life!
She sounds like an evil old ho. Keep going with the study. Eventually, you will come out the other side, get a great, well paid job and be able to afford a childminder and nice stuff for yourself. When that happens, tell her shes an evil old hag who doesnt deserve a decent guy, like your father.
My real mother has been an *** to me my entire life. I have 3 kids and the only granmother they have is my husbands parents. Which is fine with them me.
Do what you want, its not your husband that has to be stressed treated like crap by this woman.
you do not have to cut ties w/ your father so he can see his grand kids, but i would delete her from your life, some people get off on seeing others down, she seems to be like this. find a teen in the neighborhood to watch the kids if it for a hour or two maybe that would work. I wouldn’t want my kids around someone like this and maybe her bad side could be rubbing off on your kids. Don’t feel like she owes you anything that is what she wants, I would just stop calling let them initiate the conversations, visits etc. show them you do not need them, try completing the classes you have a hard time getting to online and schedule others around your husband so he has time to get home and you no longer need help.
Child Abuse is an international problem. It is sad how many people know of a child that is being or has been abused, and they say and or do nothing about it. I do not understand what would cause a person to keep this information to themselves.
It is best to cut ties with this step mom. Find another way for your children to be taken care of. she is probably abusing them.
I think you need to keep your distance, maybe see them once or twice a year….and maybe just see them in public, like meet to eat and that type of thing. My real father was awful to all his children, there are some people no matter how hard you try you cannot do enough. I am proud of the fact that you did not turn to drugs or alcohol and are doing ok. Put them way in the back of your mind and move on with life.
She’s being a b**** because she knows you and your dad are
getting along and if you asked help from your dad she just
gets jealous and swearing . You don’t deserve that since you
are a good person, ask a good friend of yours to keep your
kids while you go to school and leave your step-mom and dad
alone but still keep in touch with your dad . If it goes on ,tell
your dad you had enough and it’s been years she’s been
disrespectful to you. He should understand and he has to do something about it ! he can’t just let her do this to you .
Anyways , you should get her out of your life for good.
and good luck with your kids and school !
xox
My friend you keep going and you are going to be sick! A person can take so much and I think you have done just that! You are trying to do to much and make ever one happy but your self! I am all for going to school and better your life! You are a mother and a wife and that is hard and then add school then a dad that lets his wife tell him what he can and can not do. Then add a husband that wants you to make ever thing ok and work things out with you family ! why because of the children! You are getting so much stressed from ever one trying to make ever one happy but yourself! If I was you I would not want my kids around someone that has abuse me like you family! You Dad is abusing you also because he is not helping you because of her! You husband is not helping you. If I was you I would but my foot down and tell mother and dad where to go and let husband know that the abuse stopping here and now! You got to stan up for yourself! You want to help other children but first you got to end you abuse! How can you help others if you can’t help yours self! have a family meeting! have them over for dinner and give it to them! Tell them you don’t need them and want them out of you life! You are 29 and you got to stand up to them! Fix you life if you want to help others! I have been there! I had a Mother Dad died when I was 10 and Mother never had time for me, She was a abuser also! I married yound to get aways. I been there and I had to do the same thing Good Luck and God Help You!
that is the most and instead of listing things i can say which i can be doing for then next 3 weeks which would probably get me removed and banned from yahoo
she is the most **************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************************** i have ever heard about
if it was me i would tell her that i want nothing to do with her unless she sorts it out i would tell her to longer contact me come to my house or come with my dad if call him over
i would tell my dad about my feelings towards her and tell him that if he still loves me he would still be my father and leave her out of it i think that if your father loves his new wife more then you then he does not deserve to be your father
just becuase hes married to her does not mean that he cant do anything wihtout her if you ask your father to watch the kids ask him to watch them at your house she does not desere to know you or your father if your father wishes to stay with her thats what he can do but personaly i would tell him he can stay married to her but in my house near my kids or my faimly she does not come near
i hope you make the smart disicion and ignore her or just stop asnwering her calls and stop talking to her
anywya after youve said this to your father it is highly liekly that he will tell her to sort it out